Showing posts with label christian mentoring. Show all posts
Showing posts with label christian mentoring. Show all posts

Thursday, July 26, 2012

Mentoring Youth: Affinity - God Cares for Youth

Summary

Sometimes the summer months can be lonely for youth. Things slow down. Since they are not at school, contact with other youth is reduced. There is a lot of time to think. And when you spend more time alone, it's also common to think that you are alone in your struggles. Use this activity as an icebreaker or simply to create an awareness that regardless of what youth are going through, there are others who gone through it before us and others that will go through it later. And even if it seems there is no one who can understand, Jesus does.
ResourcesNone

Preparation
None

What to do

  1. Get everyone to pair up with someone else in the room.
  2. Ask them to decide who will be person A and who will be person B.
  3. As always, person B goes first. Person B asks the following questions in order, giving a chance for person A to respond after each question.
  4. After person A has given his/her responses, the pair switches between who asks and who answers.
  5. After some time to go back and forth between person A and B, you may wish to mix up the pairs with others in the room and repeat the process.
Questions
  • Tell me something I don’t know about you.
  • Tell me something you like about me.
  • Tell me something we might have in common.

Take It to the Next Level

We often feel we are alone in our struggles and that no one understands us or there’s no one who can relate to us or understand what we’re going through.
We don’t often realize there are people all around us that have the same life situations as us – people who share so many things in common with us. We were never created to function alone. That’s why God gave us a community.
In fact, to prove we were never alone and that there was someone out there who was familiar with our struggles, Jesus Christ, our King left His throne room and became man. He walked the same land and lived the same life. He was God with us – Emmanuel.

Looking at the Scripture

"For we do not have a high priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but One who has been tempted in all things as we are, yet without sin. Therefore let us draw near with confidence to the throne of grace, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need." (Hebrews 4:15-16 NASB)
1. Jesus knows how you think and feel
  • "But Jesus did not commit Himself to them, because He knew all men, and had no need that anyone should testify of man, for He knew what was in man" (John 2:24, 25).
  • And they prayed and said, “You, O Lord, who know the hearts of all, show which of these two You have chosen” (Acts 1:24).
2. Jesus knows you inside and out (Psalm 139:1-12, Psalm 103:14)
O LORD, You have searched me and known me.
You know my sitting down and my rising up;
You understand my thought afar off.
You comprehend my path and my lying down,
And are acquainted with all my ways.
For there is not a word on my tongue,
But behold, O LORD, You know it altogether. (Psalm 139:1-4)
3. Jesus knows your suffering (Isaiah 53:3-7)
4. Jesus will be with you and take care of you in all things (Psalm 91, 1 Peter 5:7)

Applying it to Life

  • How does it make you feel knowing that God fully understands everything you think, feel, and are going through?
  • Often God uses Christians as his hands, his voice, and his messengers to show his love and care to others.
  • Who has God placed around you to show that there are others out there who care about them?
  • Is there someone in your life you need to get to know more, to relate to, that you need to be his messenger of love and concern to?
  • If we don’t take that first step to reach out, how else will they know that there is a God who isn’t so far away an out of touch with what they’re going through?
  • What can you do this week to be a messenger of God's love, and care for others?
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Wednesday, July 25, 2012

Youth Mentoring: What is spiritual mentoring of Youth?

What is Spiritual Mentoring?
  • "It is a dynamic relationship of trust in which one person enables another to maximize the grace of God in his/her life and service." -- John Mallison (Mallison, p. 34)
  • A mentor "is not someone who can give you all the answers. He or she is someone who can cry with you when there is no answer, someone who can weep with you when you are wounded and there is no healing. A mentor is simply a companion in your situation." - James Houston (Rabey, Side by Side, 190)
  • Mentoring is a brain to pick, a shoulder to cry on, and a kick in the pants.
  • "Mentoring is a relationship through which one person empowers another by sharing God-given resources." -- Robert Clinton, Connecting. The God-given resources include wisdom, experience, patterns, habits of obedience and principles.
  • “Mentoring is a process involving people. Sometimes it’s a whole series of individuals that God brings into your life at various stages and for various purposes. In every case, those people are committed to helping you grow and perpetuate the learning process. If you stop learning and growing today, you stop ministering tomorrow.” (Hendricks, p. 51).
Counseling is a two-way relationship of counselor and client; whereas, mentoring involves a three-way relationship: the Lord, the mentoree, and the mentor. The Lord is the most important person in the relationship; the mentoree the second most important person and the mentor-the least important of all. The mentor is merely a facilitator of the deepening relationship between the mentoree and the Lord Jesus Christ.
A mentor is a person who helps a protégé move ahead in life. He is usually older and more experienced and therefore able to help the protégé get where he or she wants to be. The mentor clears the way, gives some travel tips and smooths the bumps. Occasionally the mentor helps the protégé develop the necessary skills to navigate an especially difficult turn in the road. The mentor is not so much interested in fixing the road as in helping the protégé to become a competent traveller. Here the mentor is a trusted guide rather than a tour director. Anderson and Reese identify 6 distinctives of spiritual mentoring (Anderson and Reese, 12)
  1. a means to enhance intimacy with God, ultimate identity and unique voice
  2. a way to recognize the already present action of God in the protégé's life
  3. an effective model for personal development in character formation
  4. an effective way to discern God's direction in decision-making
  5. a historically proven diet for the journey of faith
  6. an effective safeguard during boundary and transitional times in ministry
Sources:
Biehl, Bobb Mentoring : Confidence in Finding a Mentor & Becoming One (Nashville: Broadman and Holman, 1997.)

Eims, Leroy. The Lost Art of Disciple Making. (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 1978.

Harper, Melody. "As Iron Sharpens Iron... Mentoring Young People", Singapore Baptist Convention, August 2001.

Hendricks, Howard & William. As Iron Sharpens Iron: Building Character in a Mentoring Relationship. Chicago, Illinois: Moody Press, 1995.

Hendricks, Howard G. “A Man and His Mentors”. Seven Promises of a Promise Keeper, pp. 47-55.

Mallison, John. Mentoring to Develop Disciples and Leaders, Scripture Union, NSW, Australia.
 
Rabey, Steve and Lois, General Editors. Side by Side. Navpress, 2000.

Stanley,Paul D. & Clinton, J. Robert. , Connecting: The Mentoring Relationships You Need to Succeed in Life (Colorado Springs, CO: NavPress, 1992).

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Youth Mentoring: Christ - The light of the World for Today's Youth

Description
Use this simple Bible Teaching Activity for Children and Youth to introduce help them to better understand the idea that Jesus is the Light of the World, ways he brings light into our daily lives, and what that means to living the Christian Life.
Resources
  • Modeling Clay or Playdoh
  • Flashlight or small light

Advance Preparation
Prepare the room so that if you turn off the lights, the room becomes very dark. You can use newspaper, aluminum foil, or black plastic trash bags to cover windows if needed.
What to do
  • As the youth arrive, give each a "ball" of modeling clay or Playdoh. Instruct one half of the room to create something that represents darkness. Instruct the other half of the youth to form something that represents light. Their creations can either be very literal or symbolic.
  • After all the youth have had enough time to create something, ask them to share their expressions of light and darkness with the class. Encourage them to explain what they have created and how it represents light or darkness.
Take it to the Next Level
Learning Games
We all have spiritual darkness in our lives, but Jesus promises to bring light into our lives. Read John 8:12 then turn out the lights so that the room is completely dark. Then play a few carnival games in the dark. Here are some possibilities
  • Ball toss
  • Obstacle Course
  • Scavenger Hunt
  • Charades
  • Ring Toss
  • Complete a Zigsaw Puzzle
  • Bowling using a ball and empty soda bottles as pins
  • OTHERS?

Discussion
  • How would you describe darkness?
  • Darkness is like ___________?
  • What would it be like to live without light?
  • What effect does darkness have on us?
  • How does darkness hinder our abilities?

Learning Games: Part 2
  • Turn on the flashlight and repeat the games.
  • "Even a little light makes a big difference"

Conclusion
  • Read John 8:21-24
  • The light of Jesus is offered to every person, but each of us must personally make the choice to follow or reject him.
  • Divide the youth into two groups. The first group must list as many consequences or benefits as possible that are likely for a person who rejects the Light of Christ in his or her life. The second group of youth must list as as many consequences or benefits as possible for someone who rejects the light of Christ in his or her life. Answers should reflect immediate results, long term results as well as the afterlife.
  • Have the groups pick one or more spokespersons to share their answers.
  • Explain that while Christ offers light to our lives, there are still many people who choose to walk in the dark or even to close their eyes when there is light available. Discuss why a person might choose to live in the dark?

Applying the Truth
  • Jesus is available to all, if you have not asked Christ into your life, then why not? What must a person do to have Christ?
  • Ask youth to list possible areas where teens need more light?
  • Ask youth to think about areas in their own lives that need more light?
  • Have a time of prayer where youth can talk to God about the areas of their lives they need him to bring his light an cleansing to

Scripture
John 8:12,21-24

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Mentoring Ideas: Teaching Youth How to Study the Bible (Basic Checklist)

Five Principles of Bible study
  • Ask the right questions.
  • Write down what you observe and discover.
  • Apply your discovery to your life and thoughts.
  • Study the Bible systematically.
  • Strive to exhaust the passage you are studying.

Bible Study Tools in Order of Importance
  • Translation of the Bible
  • Concordance
  • Dictionary
  • Bible Dictionary
  • Commentary

Methodical Bible study
  • Pray for the Holy Spirit's guidance and insight.
  • Make observations by asking questions.
  • Seek answers from the scripture and then tools in order of importance.
  • Apply the scripture to your life.

Questions to Ask When Studying the Bible
  • What is the historical setting?
  • What is the literary form?
  • What are the key words?
  • What important grammatical structure do I observe?
  • What is the tense of the verbs?
  • Is there something contrasted?
  • Is there a paradox?
  • Is the passage dependant on a preceding passage?
  • Ask six questions: What? Who? Where? When? Why? and How?

Application of a Bible Passage
  • Is there a promise to claim?
  • Is there a command to obey?
  • Is there a sin to confess?
  • Is there a teaching to absorb?

Common Pitfalls of Youth Studying the Bible
  • Looking past the obvious for the hidden.
  • Failure to consider the historical in rushing to application.
  • Narrow vision. (All scripture is true all the time.)
  • Lack of discernment as to what is cultural and what is eternal.
  • Lack of respect for God's Word. (God's Word means what it means, regardless of our beliefs or opinions.)
  • Superstitious approach to God's Word.
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Christian Mentoring: Distractions

By Joshua Goh
dug-up-pixar.jpgOne of my favorite movies in recent years is Pixar's animated feature called 'Up'. It follows the adventures of a cantankerous old man, Carl and his growing relationship with an endearing young kid, Russell. Along their journey to fulfill Carl's lifelong wish, they run into a lovable talking dog, Dug.
As the story develops, we learn Dug and the rest of his doggie cohort are great trackers but find themselves frequently distracted by something they don't seem to like very much - squirrels. In fact, part of the running gag is the dogs jerk their heads in some random direction and stare off into the distance mid-sentence (remember, they're talking dogs) when they detect what they think are squirrels. Dug even openly voices his dislike for squirrels while they're on their quest saying that he thinks a joke he's telling is funny because "the squirrel got dead".
I chuckled to myself when I saw the reactions of the dogs in the movie to squirrels, reminds me of my own reaction to ice-cream, except that I love ice-cream, but I digress. Where was I? Oh yes. Distractions. If you're anything like me, you know how easily distracted creative people can be. One mistake is all it takes to jerk me out of a deeply moving musical performance to find the "squirrel" who made it. Especially on those reality music shows.
I must confess, it happens to me when I'm part of the congregation during worship too. A skipped beat, dissonant chord, off-pitch melody, out-of-tune instrument, a groove that doesn't "sit well", an ever-increasing tempo, or a wrong lyric, takes me out of the reverie of my worship experience. And I wonder why sometimes. Could it be I'm built too sensitive? That I'm a perfectionist at heart? Can anyone identify with me?
If you can, we're not the first to be easily distracted in the very presence of God. No, I'm not talking about your music director either. There's an interesting story in the Bible that we often quote when we talk about worship. But what we gloss over is that the person in this story is pretty much a squirrel chaser like ourselves.
In John 4, Jesus had been traveling and tired from his journey, in the middle of the afternoon, he takes a break by a well in a Samaritan town. A woman comes by and starts to draw water and naturally, Jesus asks her for a drink. She's initially taken aback that a Jewish person is even bothering to speak to her. After all, women weren't that well regarded in those days, much less Samaritan women. She questions his motives, albeit suspiciously, and Jesus answered, "If you knew the generosity of God and who I am, you would be asking me for a drink, and I would give you fresh, living water."
First of all, simple hospitality would dictate that if you have a jug of water and someone, and I don't care who you may have a personal grudge with comes by asking you for a drink, you'd have the common courtesy to offer him a drink, not question his motives. Let alone a hungry, thirsty, weary traveller.
Instead of responding to Jesus' need for water, she responds instead by asking where he's going to get the water he's offering, even going so far as to question his ability and authority. Can we say, "Squirrel"? Still without his drink and yet unfazed by her distraction, Jesus goes on to say, "Everyone who drinks this water will get thirsty again and again. Anyone who drinks the water I give will never thirst—not ever. The water I give will be a... spring within, gushing fountains of endless life." To which she replies, "Sir, give me this water so I won't ever get thirsty, won't ever have to come back to this well again!"
At this point, if I were Jesus, I'd be getting pretty annoyed. Here I am asking for my needs to be met (I'm thirsty and it's hot out here for goodness sake) and the person who has the thing to meet my need is asking for something from me instead. Oh the irony. Well, I'm glad I'm not Jesus. You've got to love the way how he just ignores her lack of understanding of the deep spiritual truth He is sharing with her. And taking advantage of the moment where He has her attention again, He's going right for the jugular; identifying her needs and situation. Let's listen in on their conversation.
He said, "Go call your husband and then come back."
"I have no husband," she said.
"That's nicely put: 'I have no husband.' You've had five husbands, and the man you're living with now isn't even your husband. You spoke the truth there, sure enough."
And just as Jesus has her "arrested", she again asks a squirrelly question.
"Oh, so you're a prophet! Well, tell me this: Our ancestors worshiped God at this mountain, but you Jews insist that Jerusalem is the only place for worship, right?"
It's interesting that out of all the questions she could have asked this man in front of her that she perceives to be a prophet, she asks one about worship. Despite the fact that her question seemed intended to divert Jesus' attention away from her less-than-holy lifestyle, He understands that though she's not perfect, her real desire is to understand worship. Even as she faces alienation from her community because of her past, she still yearns for communion with God. In spite of her sinful lifestyle, she longs to see God.
Jesus, always compassionate to those who hunger and thirst for Him, answers, "Believe me, woman, the time is coming when you Samaritans will worship the Father neither here at this mountain nor there in Jerusalem. You worship guessing in the dark; we Jews worship in the clear light of day. God's way of salvation is made available through the Jews. But the time is coming—it has, in fact, come—when what you're called will not matter and where you go to worship will not matter.
"It's who you are and the way you live that count before God. Your worship must engage your spirit in the pursuit of truth. That's the kind of people the Father is out looking for: those who are simply and honestly themselves before him in their worship. God is sheer being itself—Spirit. Those who worship him must do it out of their very being, their spirits, their true selves, in adoration."
The woman said, "I don't know about that. I do know that the Messiah is coming. When he arrives, we'll get the whole story."
"I am he," said Jesus. "You don't have to wait any longer or look any further."
And right then when Jesus has her complete attention, He reveals Himself to her, that He is the Christ, her Messiah - the one whom she has been seeking for. She makes the dramatic turn from squirrel chaser to God chaser.
God hasn't radically changed the way he deals with us through the ages. The same way he dealt with the woman's imperfection and distraction is the same way he deals with us. The woman was initially so distracted by her own issues, she completely missed seeing the Messiah that she was seeking even though he was right there before her very eyes. It's easy to see the root issue of the distractions that plague us are simply the symptom of a mind that isn't completely focused on Christ. We're thinking about the music, the lyrics, the lights, our inadequacy, our imperfection, anything but God - the object of our worship.
I'm reminded of a blog post by Bob Kauflin in his www.worshipmatters.com blog and if I may have the liberty to adapt what he says to this squirrelly topic,
"Don’t Expect Perfection - If I’m aiming [for] flawless[ness] then I am dooming myself to discouragement because I will never do it perfectly! Yes, I could do [be] better, (and evaluation is a useful tool to cultivate humility) but I do it from the foundation that I am already accepted in Christ and that my worship is pleasing to God through Jesus’ perfect sacrifice."
So, if we find ourselves distracted by whatever is going on on stage, the solution then is to recognize that the imperfect worship being offered by the team on the platform is acceptable to God precisely because of Jesus' perfect sacrifice - it is the desire to honor Him above all else that God finds truly pleasing. Not a perfect performance. We need to allow God to grab us and arrest our attention, just like the woman did, so that He can reveal Himself to us and our only reasonable response to that is to bow down and worship the King of Glory. After all, isn't that our true desire and our ultimate and eventual purpose?
If our distraction comes from within and we feel that our imperfect life of sin is preventing us from approaching God's throne, then I hope the story of the woman at the well speaks to you. God isn't looking for people who are perfect. In fact, He sought out that woman knowing full well her lifestyle. Christ said to her the same thing he says to us now, "a time is coming and has now come when the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and truth, for they are the kind of worshipers the Father seeks". If our worship is sincere and we are clear in our minds who we worship and why we're worshipping, all that's left for us to do is to depend on His complete work of redemption. It is Jesus who sanctifies our praises to the Father and we just simply need set aside fear of reprisal, approach Him with boldness and confidence and allow Him to deal with us. Are we willing to, like that woman so long ago, ask Him for a drink?
Squirrel!
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Mentoring Youth: Six Hours One Friday for Youth

sixhours.jpgWas Reading "Six Hours One Friday" written by Max Lucado.
In it he says...
"Six hours. One Friday.
Let me ask you a question: What do you do with that day in history? What do you do with its claims?
If it really happened...if God did commandeer his own crucifixion...if he did turn his back on his own son...if he did storm Satan's gate, then those 6 hours that Friday were packed with tragic triumph. If that was God on that cross, then the hill called Skull is granite studded with stakes to which you can anchor.
Those 6 hours were no normal 6 hours. They were the most critical hours in history. For during those 6 hours on that Friday, God embedded in the earth 3 anchor points sturdy enough to withstand any hurricane.
Anchor point #1 - My life is not futile. This rock secures the hull of your heart. Its sole function is to give you something which you can grip when facing the surging tides of futility and relativism. It's a firm grasp on the conviction that there is truth. Someone is in control and you have a purpose.
Anchor point #2 - My failures are not fatal. It's not that he loves what you did, but he loves who you are. You are his. The one who has the right to condemn you provided the way to acquit you. You make mistakes. God doesn't. And he made you.
Anchor point #3 - My death is not final. There is one more stone to which you should tie. It's large. It's round. And it's heavy. It blocked the door of a grave. It wasn't big enough though. The tomb that it sealed was the tomb of a transient. He only went in to prove he could come out. And on the way out he took the stone with him and turned it into an anchor point. He dropped it deep into the uncharted waters of death. Tie to his rock and the typhoon of the tomb becomes a spring breeze on Easter Sunday.
There they are. Three anchor points. The anchor points of the cross.
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I think all three of these have powerful lessons for our youth.
Life is not futile. Everyone seems to be looking for gloom on the horizon. The economy is on edge. Jobs are uncertain. The future looks difficult. And in this uncertain time, many youth are also uncertain of themselves. They wonder why they are here. Is there a reason for them to be here? Is there meaning in life.
Failures are not fatal. Youth make mistakes. We all do. It's not making the mistake that is important, but learning from the mistakes we make. God has forgiven those mistakes and even the willful choices. Forgiveness is there for the asking. When youth fall, they need to get up, grab the hand of Jesus and keep moving forward .
Death is not final. That is powerful. Youth aren't often concerned with death. But knowing that there is more beyond this life is important. That out time here is momentary compared to eternity. So with youthful zeal, make every moment count.
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